The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...

church’s responsibility toward their spiritual leaders, namely, accept them,
appreciate them, love them and then finally to obey them. As congregational
members, obeying the spiritual leadership God has placed over them results
in peaceable living (Heb. 13:17; 1 Thes. 5:14), this is our fourth mandate.
Understanding the above directives may produce a congregation that
not only appreciates their pastor(s) more but will also approach them with
care. It is not easy for a pastor to approach his congregation with a message
on honouring the God-anointed leadership. Pastors may feel quite awkward
discussing their need to feel appreciated and loved and yet this biblical
command is vital in the life of the church. It is recommended that the church
leadership appoint an elder or deacon (apart from the pastor) who will call the
congregation to respond biblically to the church leaders, more specifically to
the appointed pastor(s). The above is a brief description of scriptural
requirements; the following sections will provide more practical
recommendations.
4.2.2. Church Leadership Support for Pastors’ Wives
It is quite common to hear of pastors’ fraternals offered to pastors
within particular denominations or geographical areas. Some denominations
(e.g., Assemblies of God, Baptist Union) have annual meetings for wives of
pastors within the denomination as well. The church leadership should be
supportive and encourage the pastor and his wife to attend as many meetings
or conferences as is necessary in order to grow and find comfort and support
from people of similar situation. The church leadership should discuss issues
with love, respect and sensitivity when dealing with the pastor’s wife.
Understanding her primary function as a wife and/or mother should help them
to guard any unrealistic expectations.
It is recommended that the church leadership is clear and up front
concerning their expectations of the pastor and his wife. They should also
educate the church members regarding the roles and responsibilities of the
pastoral families. A clear opportunity would be at a new members’ class or
periodically at a general meeting. If possible, pastoral support can be included
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