The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...

23C2y: Serve God – I want to be the best partner I can be for my husband.
He is my priority, after God. I will love, accept, defend, support and be loyal to
my husband’s calling. Don’t put God in a box. Don’t be a people pleaser.
12B5t: Allow us (as a pastoral couple) to have a private life, give much more
needed space to allow us free time to do family things. Respect days off and
family time (after hours), etc.
44D3w: I would want to tell them to reach out to those in need, there is
tremendous need and suffering. Don’t judge people so easily or too quickly.
12B4z: Nothing specifically. That I need their prayer and that with 3 young
children I won’t be able to be as involved as I would like. That we are still
young and don’t know everything. I’m still learning.
22B4w: I would urge congregational members to take good care of their
pastors and the pastors’ families. Respect them and their privacy. Pray for the
pastoral families daily.
Answers to this question were most interesting; wives felt comfortable
and were encouraged to share openly. There was a general call to
congregational members to a) love and serve God completely, b) be
committed to the church, c) respect and support the pastor and his family, and
d) understand who I am (as the pastor’s wife) and how I fit in.
At times, wives expressed at times dissatisfaction with congregational
members’ commitment to the ministry of the church and members’
expectations were often unrealistic. As members would expect the church to
run in a certain way without being participants within the church, wives were
not pleased with the criticism and expressed a desire to see church members
more involved and passionate about serving God and local church.
One wife indicated that as church members focused more on the
ministry and needs of the church their focus would be less on unimportant
issues, such as, her role within the church. A general need to be understood
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