The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...
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maintain your spiritual self must become a matter <strong>of</strong> personal priority”.<br />
Although most wives understand that having to deal with small children is a<br />
phase in life, it can <strong>of</strong>ten a lonely time. This situation could be alleviated by<br />
having an older <strong>wife</strong> mentoring a younger <strong>wife</strong>. Sitting down for a half hour or<br />
hour each week (even with <strong>the</strong> children) could be an encouraging time spent<br />
in prayer and God’s Word.<br />
It is impossible to foresee every problem that would await a pastor’s<br />
<strong>wife</strong>; however, many authors (Somerville 2005, Dobson 2004, Haggard 2004)<br />
encourage making <strong>the</strong> effort to spend time with God whe<strong>the</strong>r <strong>the</strong>y are working<br />
through a problem situation or experiencing God’s goodness and great joy.<br />
Dobson (2004:94) <strong>of</strong>fers, “No single activity is more important than spending<br />
time <strong>the</strong> Word <strong>of</strong> God, unless it is <strong>the</strong> prayer time in which you beseech God<br />
to activate his Word in your life”. Haggard (2004:26-27) concurs, she shares<br />
that “as I drew closer to God, my intimacy with Him became <strong>the</strong> foundation on<br />
which everything else He had to teach me would be built. … It gave me <strong>the</strong><br />
confidence that God values my life that I count to Him”.<br />
Possessing a spiritual life is not a ‘nice to have’; it is a true necessity,<br />
not only for pastors’ wives but all Christians. <strong>The</strong> fact that many wives are not<br />
having quiet times with <strong>the</strong> Lord reveals a great need and may be evidence or<br />
symptom <strong>of</strong> burn out. Spending quality time with <strong>the</strong> Lord will help to prevent<br />
burn out. Somerville (2005:14-15) indicates placing one’s priorities in order,<br />
seeking time with God, will focus one’s role and decided input to <strong>the</strong> body <strong>of</strong><br />
Christ. It is less likely that pastor’s or <strong>the</strong>ir spouses will be involved in undue<br />
activity when <strong>the</strong>y are listening to Him.<br />
4.4.4. Making <strong>the</strong> Home a Haven<br />
One image <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> ‘typical’ pastor’s <strong>wife</strong> may conjure up ideas <strong>of</strong> a<br />
simple, yet cheerful and devoted woman. Someone who is prone to<br />
hospitality, who encompasses <strong>the</strong> full range <strong>of</strong> culinary art and perfect<br />
housekeeping ability. This is not an accurate picture <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> real pastor’s <strong>wife</strong>.<br />
Hospitality is a spiritual gift and a special function within <strong>the</strong> church. Making<br />
one’s home a haven for <strong>the</strong> husband and children may be a necessity at<br />
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