The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...

2.4.11 What message would you wish to give to the church if given the
opportunity to speak frankly?
22B5q: Christ died for you. It’s not too much to ask that you sacrifice for Him.
Always give your best, not just your ‘leftovers’.
23B3w: My passion and concern about the church would be about the very
low attendance at the prayer meetings. I would want to speak frankly to the
church about this issue and the extreme lack of commitment of young families
who do not put God first in their lives, it is difficult but it can be done. I don’t
feel the men are setting examples for their families.
34D5p: I would like to hear words of support for the pastor – I find a lack of
commitment to the church and pastor in general and would want members to
be faithful in their commitments to support the pastor and the church, to
encourage him more. I get frustrated when people are critical of the church,
i.e., worship, especially when they have no part in church functions.
12B1s: The leadership needs to assess if the pastor’s wife is simply to be a
support to her husband only or to be a support to both the church and her
husband. If the latter, then a financial remuneration should be in order. I
desire to be a team player, a part of the very important ministry team as a fulltime
or part-time paid member, not a person who is over-burdened with
responsibilities and yet has many other non-church related responsibilities to
endure. One or the other but not both.
22B3q: Do everything to make the pastor’s children feel loved, cared for,
remembered, etc. You cannot ‘over do’ involvement in the kids lives, in a
positive way. Get rid of the ‘unwritten expectations’ of kids in church and
school – from a behavioural aspect. As parents, we make a conscientious
effort to guard our kids against negative aspects of the church. We allow them
to decide for themselves without allowing them to become bitter or biased in
their opinions. I would want the leaders of the church to know what the gifts of
the pastor/his wife are and then set them free to use those gifts most
effectively, rather than do what traditionally a pastor or his wife may be
expected to do.
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