The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...
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4.4.5. Mentoring 28<br />
A mentoring programme can be a very good source <strong>of</strong> encouragement<br />
and accountability for pastors’ wives. I found that <strong>the</strong> younger wives struggled<br />
to find time and energy to balance <strong>the</strong>ir many responsibilities, whereas <strong>the</strong><br />
older wives were more confident and had already survived <strong>the</strong> experience <strong>of</strong><br />
being a young pastor’s <strong>wife</strong>. This experience is invaluable. If it is not possible<br />
for a young pastor’s <strong>wife</strong> to seek <strong>the</strong> help and guidance from an experienced<br />
pastor’s <strong>wife</strong>, <strong>the</strong>n approaching a senior and godly woman <strong>of</strong> her<br />
congregation may be worthwhile. More experienced, older pastors’ wives<br />
would benefit from coming alongside a younger member <strong>of</strong> her congregation<br />
or perhaps a younger pastor’s <strong>wife</strong> where possible. Titus 2 <strong>of</strong>fers guidance to<br />
older women within <strong>the</strong> church to come alongside younger women. In order to<br />
teach <strong>the</strong>m to “love <strong>the</strong>ir husbands and children, to be self-controlled and<br />
pure, to be busy at home, to be kind and to be subject to <strong>the</strong>ir husbands, so<br />
that no one will malign <strong>the</strong> word <strong>of</strong> God” (vv. 4-5). I believe this verse<br />
encompasses many <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> struggles faced by young woman, but is not<br />
comprehensive enough to perhaps meet all <strong>the</strong> needs <strong>of</strong> a young <strong>wife</strong> and<br />
mo<strong>the</strong>r. Understanding who she is as a woman, created in God’s image, as<br />
<strong>wife</strong> (helper) to her husband, mo<strong>the</strong>r to her children and as a believer in God’s<br />
household are all important aspects.<br />
Although Bare (1998:162) indicates that mentoring has flaws, Wilson<br />
(2001) shares that mentoring can be a positive contribution that involves <strong>the</strong><br />
caring and loving <strong>of</strong> ano<strong>the</strong>r “In our view, care is a facet <strong>of</strong> love and, like <strong>the</strong><br />
Apostle Paul, we suggest that it is <strong>the</strong> greatest <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> virtues. At <strong>the</strong> heart <strong>of</strong><br />
any successful mentor relationship is genuine care and concern for <strong>the</strong><br />
protégé”. It is certain that a true and honouring friendship must exist between<br />
<strong>the</strong> older and younger woman. Bare (1998:162) contends that mentoring is<br />
not always ideal due to <strong>the</strong> sensitive and private nature <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> life <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong><br />
pastor’s <strong>wife</strong>. She may feel uncomfortable to open up and speak freely. This, I<br />
28 For “Creative Ideas for Building Relationships (How to Mentor and be Mentored)” see<br />
Appendix 9.<br />
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