The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...

2.4.7 Have you established any boundaries in relation to your
involvement within the church? If yes, have these boundaries
been conveyed to the church? To what extent has the church
honoured these boundaries?
22B5q: Yes, very much. The boundaries have been honoured and
encouraged.
23B3w: Yes, I have clearly defined boundaries. I’ve never really had to
verbalise them, people just know, seems to come naturally and the church or
people definitely honour those boundaries.
34D5p: Not really. There is a general expectation of the congregation that I be
the one to organise events, i.e., a kitchen tea or stork party for the other
women in the congregation. I am able to subtly delegate many of these tasks.
My husband has made an effort to establish ministry leaders and delegate
responsibilities, assisting in the tidying of the church hall, setting up for
services, etc. so I do not need to think of those issues. I work in the church in
the mornings and at a secular job in the afternoons.
12B1s: No, not really. Only that I don’t feel comfortable teaching or preaching
in the church, but the odd bible study meeting is not a problem.
22B3q: We have established some boundaries over the years but very few
boundaries were necessary, mostly (95%) evasive. There was a tendency to
get firm with boundaries, but usually only on an individual basis. If certain
issues were expressed, the church leadership was usually very understanding
and accommodating.
23C2y: Yes. I learned to say ‘no’ when necessary and give input when
required. I limit my involvement to my specific gifts.
12B5t: Yes and no. I do not get involved with anything simply because I am
the wife of the minister – I choose what I believe I ought to be involved in, as
the Lord leads me. I need to be more assertive in setting boundaries and then
abide by them as much as is possible – my biggest concern is the time our
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