The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...

needs also to be clear as to what she commits to and what she does not wish
to commit to, making sure that her obligations are fulfilled where necessary.
2.3.18 Do you find it easy to make friends within the church?
22B5q:
23B3w:
34D5p:
12B1s :
22B3q:
23C2y:
12B5t:
44D3w:
12B4z:
22B4w:
Yes
Yes
Yes, not close friends
Yes, not close friends
Yes
Yes, not close friends
No
Yes, not close friends
Yes, not close friends
Yes
A common thread developed as each wife answered this question.
Generally, wives were friendly and made friends easily, yet very few had a
close friend in whom they could share deeply. Most wives indicated that either
their husband or a close family member were amongst those with whom they
could share their struggles honestly and openly without fear of judgement.
Some wives were asked, in addition to this question, if they were friends with
other pastors’ wives. Many were acquaintances but few were friends. This
may be an interesting topic of research as many wives would benefit from
encouraging one another, as only a pastor’s wife is aware of what another
pastor’s wife may be going through. However, the dynamics of a relatively
small town may cause difficulty in developing a sound friendship. Some wives
expressed a desire to have such a close friendship but were reticent for a few
reasons namely, knowing who to trust, showing favouritism and
confidentiality.
2.3.19 Why or why not?
22B5q:
23B3w:
I have many friends but am careful not to be too close to any
one person.
I find it easy to make friends and have a close friend. I’ve
learned to test and trust people.
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