The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...
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ministry and afford all time and every phone call to ministry purposes. We’ve<br />
had huge changes from early years in ministry to later years, <strong>the</strong> most difficult<br />
being <strong>the</strong> first 10 years when <strong>the</strong> kids were young and still in school. I<br />
remember I was frustrated because <strong>the</strong>re is not always a ‘knock-<strong>of</strong>f’ time or a<br />
job description for <strong>the</strong> pastor. A new couple needs clear expectations from <strong>the</strong><br />
deaconate and must set clear boundaries up front, <strong>the</strong>y also need to feel <strong>the</strong>y<br />
are able to express all <strong>the</strong>ir burdens and hardships with <strong>the</strong> council so that <strong>the</strong><br />
church can be very supportive to <strong>the</strong> couple when necessary, giving <strong>the</strong>m <strong>the</strong><br />
required time away when needed. <strong>The</strong>re are <strong>of</strong>ten miscommunications<br />
between you and <strong>the</strong> church, or vice-versa, unrealistic expectations on both<br />
sides, how <strong>the</strong>y see your role, especially if you are <strong>the</strong> 2 nd , 3 rd or 4 th pastoral<br />
couple to come along, you should not be expected to fill any bodies shoes,<br />
but ra<strong>the</strong>r be free to walk in your own. Misconception <strong>of</strong> some churches that<br />
<strong>the</strong>y are getting ‘two for <strong>the</strong> price <strong>of</strong> one’ – those wives who work in <strong>the</strong><br />
church should receive a salary from <strong>the</strong> church. If <strong>the</strong> husband is called, <strong>the</strong><br />
<strong>wife</strong> is also called – she must be aware <strong>of</strong> this calling. Beware <strong>of</strong> gossip which<br />
can easily hurt you and/or your friends within <strong>the</strong> church. Ideally – it would be<br />
wonderful to have a senior couple mentoring a new pastoral couple, whe<strong>the</strong>r<br />
in <strong>the</strong> church or from ano<strong>the</strong>r, prayer partners are also necessary, also a<br />
mo<strong>the</strong>r figure to support <strong>the</strong> <strong>wife</strong>.<br />
23C2y: None.<br />
12B5t: None.<br />
44D3w: If giving advice to a potential pastor’s <strong>wife</strong> I would tell <strong>the</strong>m that we<br />
are privileged with very personal information regarding parishioners lives, so it<br />
is <strong>of</strong> utmost importance that we remain confidential, discreet, sober in<br />
judgment, etc. I would also tell <strong>the</strong>m to respect <strong>the</strong>ir husband’s need to study<br />
and give him <strong>the</strong> needed time for preparation <strong>of</strong> his sermons. Try to separate<br />
private and church life as much as possible – although your husband is on<br />
duty 24 hours a day and busy most evenings be determined to invest in your<br />
private life. <strong>The</strong>re is a great emotional involvement and it is important to be<br />
each o<strong>the</strong>r’s best friends.<br />
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