The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...
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3.3 <strong>The</strong> Christian Woman<br />
<strong>The</strong> Christian woman is a believer in Christ. She has submitted her life to<br />
His authority, confessed and repented <strong>of</strong> her sins and seeks a deeper<br />
personal relationship with her God (Jn. 3:36; 1 Jn. 1:9). We have identified <strong>the</strong><br />
pastor’s <strong>wife</strong> as a woman, a <strong>wife</strong> and now seek to identify her as one in<br />
Christ, a believer, who is striving to become more like Christ and her ideal<br />
equivalent, <strong>the</strong> noble woman.<br />
3.3.1 <strong>The</strong> Importance <strong>of</strong> Identity Awareness<br />
It is important that a pastor’s <strong>wife</strong> understands her biblical womanhood<br />
– <strong>the</strong> reason for her existence, her purpose and her identity in Christ. This<br />
knowledge brings confidence to fulfil her calling, thus, honouring God by<br />
supporting her husband and actively serving alongside him and within <strong>the</strong><br />
body <strong>of</strong> Christ. This point, although seemingly simplistic, is important for any<br />
person. Women <strong>of</strong>ten find <strong>the</strong>ir identity in <strong>the</strong>ir husbands or in a prominent<br />
figure within <strong>the</strong>ir lives, sometimes even <strong>the</strong>ir children (Dobson, 2004:37).<br />
Men <strong>of</strong>ten find <strong>the</strong>ir identity in <strong>the</strong>ir vocation and not in a person (Eggerichs,<br />
2004:196). Dobson (2004:37) relates how identity awareness, for <strong>the</strong><br />
unbelieving <strong>wife</strong>, 14 could present a problem should <strong>the</strong> husband pass away.<br />
Her whole reason for existence is threatened and she may begin to have<br />
feelings <strong>of</strong> worthlessness as one lacking any purpose.<br />
Culver (1987:46-47) explains <strong>the</strong> differences between men and<br />
women, specifically in <strong>the</strong>ir biological make-up. He claims, through scientific<br />
research, that women are more sensitive to <strong>the</strong>ir environment and <strong>the</strong>refore<br />
have a more nurturing and social nature. <strong>The</strong>y quickly and easily form a<br />
nucleus <strong>of</strong> supporters who are available in a time <strong>of</strong> crisis to which <strong>the</strong>y can<br />
identify. This circle <strong>of</strong> friends will <strong>of</strong>ten lift up a widow, giving her comfort and<br />
support, but ultimately her identity is in crisis. Women are relationship driven<br />
14 Dobson only alludes to <strong>the</strong> unbelieving <strong>wife</strong> on <strong>the</strong> premise that <strong>the</strong> believing <strong>wife</strong><br />
(although she may be affected in a similar way) should be secure because her identity resides<br />
in Christ and not solely in her husband. A <strong>wife</strong> should grieve <strong>the</strong> loss <strong>of</strong> her husband but <strong>the</strong><br />
believing <strong>wife</strong> has <strong>the</strong> security in knowing that she is not lost with her husband because her<br />
identity remains secure in Christ. As a believing <strong>wife</strong> her identity should not be in crisis.<br />
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