I'm Still Human: Understanding Depression With Kindness (Expanded Edition - 2021)

(6) You think you’re the only one with problems?
WHY NOT? Yes, all of us have problems. But we have different
strength and weakness in coping with problems. It’s not helpful to
judge people’s ability to cope.
Say: I also have issues (share your experience). We have
different strength and weakness. We can help each
other to solve issues. Let me know if you wish to share
yours. Maybe we can discover a solution together.
(7) Stop pretending to be depressed!
WHY NOT? Nobody chooses or pretends to have cancer. The same
applies to depression, a medical condition with neurobiological
changes in the brain and body. A small number of people with
depression might have personality issues (e.g. using the illness to
avoid responsibilities or seek attention). Bear in mind that they're
the minorities. Most of them want to recover from depression but
are helpless in battling the disease.
Say: Perhaps you don’t have to try so hard pretending to
be happy. Sometimes, it’s OK not to be fine. I know
you've tried your best. It’s a horrible illness.
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