I'm Still Human: Understanding Depression With Kindness (Expanded Edition - 2021)

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flowers and fruits of happiness can grow. I did as advised but wasimpatient; I dug out all the seeds before they had a chance to sproutand grow.I do a lot of good deeds (e.g. community service) and things that areconducive to healing of my depression (e.g. exercise, learning aboutparenting, etc). People compliment and thank me for what I do forthem. But I always feel that I’m not good enough - I blame, criticizeand find fault with myself.To avoid a depressive relapse, I got to constantly remind myself,“You are good enough,” echoing the advice from my wisepsychiatrist.“Whatever you are doing is not perfect but good enough – keep itup and you’re on your way to recovery. But you are too impatientfor the seeds to grow. You dig out the seeds and scold the seeds,‘Why aren’t you growing?!’ You doubt whether the person whorecommended you the seeds was right after all. You doubt whetherthe seeds will ever grow – trust me, they will surely grow, just bepatient,” said my psychiatrist. He’s right and I’ll never forget that.It’s an important realization.77
While reading a self-help book on cognitive behavior therapy (CBT),I had another important realization - I can’t depend on mypsychiatrist too much. I’m responsible for my healing. He can onlyguide but not support me all the time.Through my reading in CBT, I also gradually discovered that mydepression is actively fed by mynegative and unhelpful thinkingpatterns, which I’m learning totransform. If you are interested toknow more about CBT, you can lookfor this book, “Fight Your DarkShadow – Managing Depression withCognitive Behavior Therapy,” byDr. Tian P.S. Oei.78
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I’M STILL HUMANUnderstanding Depr
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ReminderThis is a book on mental he
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come forward and seek help. In this
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ContentForewordDedicationPrefacePAR
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PART 4: Jasmine’s journey of reco
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forgive themselves and others by pr
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The book suggests that depression i
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PrefaceI wrote this book with Jasmi
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What is depression?Depression is a
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What depression is NOT!• It’s N
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6. Moving or speaking so slowly tha
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People who are depressed also often
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• More likely to appear in the fo
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Depression and suicideIf I had no s
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What should I do if I or somebodyha
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“I know that you’re going throu
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• Have psychosis, e.g. hear invis
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• Registered counselor: a person
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In government hospitals, you may be
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* Private psychiatric services in M
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3. Register yourself for the servic
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Page 50 and 51: Kindly be reminded:1. Be open and h
Page 52 and 53: What is the cause of depression?“
Page 54 and 55: Understanding the various R.T.M. fa
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Page 64 and 65: ~ Introduction ~I’m an introvert
Page 66 and 67: ~ Hopeless ~My life is like a withe
Page 68 and 69: ~ Useless ~This is my healing diary
Page 70 and 71: ~ Guilt ~Very often, I’m not a go
Page 72 and 73: ~ Burden ~I always feel like a huge
Page 74 and 75: ~ Weak ~One of the main reasons why
Page 76 and 77: ~ Gloomy Evenings ~Generally, peopl
Page 78 and 79: ~ Suicidal Thoughts ~Life is indeed
Page 80 and 81: ~ Self-harm ~I know I’m not suppo
Page 82 and 83: ~ My Struggle with Medicines ~No ma
Page 84 and 85: ~ Electro-convulsive Therapy (ECT)
Page 86 and 87: ~ Not My True Self ~“Trust me, Ja
Page 88 and 89: ~ The Story of a Pothole ~This is a
Page 90 and 91: the pothole that had taught her man
Page 92 and 93: • Feelings of worthlessness or in
Page 96 and 97: ~ Let’s Be Friends ~Dear Depressi
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Page 102 and 103: Come on,let’s follow me OUT…str
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Page 108 and 109: Yes, they are indeed very strong. I
Page 110 and 111: • Remember that God is loving and
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Page 114 and 115: 5. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS:Yeahoo, lif
Page 116 and 117: • Be grateful that you managed to
Page 118 and 119: Depression is associated with lack
Page 120 and 121: 8. RADIATE KIND THOUGHTS TO OTHERS:
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Page 124 and 125: 12 ways to be kind to peoplewith de
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sleep, constipation, bad-tempered).
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• 6. If you can’t sleep, don’
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n Adopt a passive attitude, i.e. do
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17. I’m very confused and indecis
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18. How can I change my negative th
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5DiscountingPositiveIgnoring the go
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I’MUSELESSI SEE, IT’S OK….I S
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Watch your thoughts, for they becom
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for sleep, increased libido, spendi
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Here are some ways to help us to fi
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What should I say to support a pers
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Say: It’s unfortunate that so man
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(8) You must be too free and thinki
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Forum for understanding depressionw
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Dr. Phang stressed that just like p
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further assessment. She was given q
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In short, kindness, friendship, lis
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It is so inspiring to see several m
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it tends automatically to ruminate
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‘normal’ (part and parcel of li
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PART 4Jasmine’s Journeyof Recover
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1. A Journey Of Recovery2. OMG - It
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OMG - It’s Never EasyThe journey
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It’s Scary - Panic Attacks!Due to
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Don't Delay - Seek Proper Treatment
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Trust Me -Medicine Is Very Importan
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Have I Recovered?On many occasions,
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Small Is Beautiful - Set Small Goal
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fight with the feelings but befrien
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It’s OK Not To Be OkayLow self-es
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Gyming The Mind & BodyI try to main
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Adjust: I adjust the way I perceive
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What I can I do now? Instead of was
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event's memories are still there bu
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Be Grateful To Be HappyLife with de
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Don’t Give Up, Be Hopey!The tips,
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After rain there’s a rainbow,Afte
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DONATIONThe publication of this boo
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About the authorDr. Phang Cheng Kar
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