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Calm co-inquiring Clare thinks: Praps I‟m wrong maybe the group
will carry on for a bit longer. It is still difficult getting the co-inquirers
together. What is this telling me about my inquiry?
Whinging Wilma thinks: Only 2 had the decency to email me. What
a cheek! Well it‟s curtains to the group! I‟m not making any more
effort!
Breaking News: Start writing again about whinging and its
possible relationship with reflecting
Co-inquiring Clare thinks: Alice and I went back to our image of the
snowdrop in the pavement which symbolised empathy and the
theme of using our vulnerability as a strength, as a possible way of
showing an alternative to whinging. We have recognised one way to
combat whinging might be through supportive challenge,
appreciation and nurturing.
Breaking News: You need to stop writing so you can get stuck
in traffic for an extra three quarters of an hour then argue with
your son after tea that you absolutely need to have your turn
on the computer!
Worked up Whinging Wilma thinks: He always argues with me who
does he think he is! It‟s not as if I want to do this bloody writing
anyway. No-one will read it, what‟s the point!
Breaking News: You need to stop writing and pick up your
daughter from dancing
Worked up Whinging Wilma: Oh no, I‟m 5 minutes late already.
Why didn‟t she tell me it was my turn to pick her up this morning?
Selfish that‟s what kids are. I‟ll be in the dog house now. It just
never stops. The bloody joys of single parenting!
Breaking News: You need to stop writing and pick up the
phone
Calm co-inquiring Clare says: “Sorry love I‟m just on my way”.
Worked up Whinging Wilma thinks: Shit, hurry up computer I‟m late.
It‟s all your fault I‟m late!
Breaking News: You need to stop writing and actually go and
pick up your daughter from dancing rather than thinking it
Calm co-inquiring Clare placates her angry daughter through
apology, empathy and humour. She thinks: I forgot it was my turn to
take Cathy‟s friend home even though Cathy reminded me in the
morning before school. How distracted I‟ve become since working
on the PhD! She resumes her place at the computer and thinks:
Where were we in the bumpy journey? It‟s another steep bump to
get this writing finished and my car seems to have stalled. I can see
this writing is helping me see that whinging is a way of letting off
steam as Deidre suggested but do you get rid of the steam?
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