Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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Then, for all the time we spend not having the thing we
want, such as a romantic relationship, our brains have to
justify and validate our stance in life as a form of self-protection.
This is why we unconsciously vilify those who
do have what we want. Instead of being inspired by their
success, we doubt them. We become a skeptic about relationships,
being so jealous of others’ happiness we assume
that they must be faking it, or that love “isn’t real,” or that
they’ll split eventually, anyway.
If we hold tightly to these beliefs for long enough, guess
what will happen when we finally get that relationship
we really want? Of course, we are going to doubt it and
assume it will also fail.
This is what’s going on when people push others away
or give up on their big dreams the moment something
challenging comes up. When we are so scared that we are
going to lose something, we tend to push it away from
ourselves first as a means of self-preservation.
So let’s say that you work through the limiting beliefs that
are creating this much resistance in your life, and you do
eventually allow yourself to build and have the thing you
really, really want. Next, you’ll be upon the last and most
trying challenge, which is the shift from “survival mode”
to “thriving mode.”
If you have spent the majority of your life in a state in
which you are “just getting by,” you are not going to know