Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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ATTACHMENT TO WHAT YOU
DON’T REALLY WANT
Sometimes, your dreams for your life are adopted from
other people’s preferences. In other cases, you determine
what you want and then you outgrow your old ambitions.
Sometimes, we fight endlessly to try to force ourselves to
want something that we do not really want, and it always
leaves us empty, because it isn’t a genuine desire. This is
different than lacking motivation or experiencing resistance.
Our inability to perform is not based in fear or lack
of skill, it is based in an inherent knowing that this is not
what we want for our lives, and perhaps we’re feeling lost
or unable to change our path.
When you find yourself struggling with something, you
have to ask yourself: Do I actually want to do this? Do you
want the job, or do you just like how the title sounds? Are
you in love with the person, or do you like the idea of
the relationship? Are you still holding an outdated idea of
what your greatest success will be, and if so, what would it
look like to let that go?
At the end of the day, self-sabotage sometimes functions
to show us that we aren’t quite on the right path yet, and
that we need to reevaluate to determine what would feel
best for our lives, even if that means we disappoint some
people or even our younger selves.