Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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This, however, is actually the opposite of happiness, because
it’s conditional. True happiness is embracing the
little joys in life: the sunrise on a warm summer morning,
your cup of coffee, or an amazing book. It is being grateful
not only for when big things happen, but also for the
small satisfactions that you can find every day.
Most people severely overthink happiness. They assume
their lives have to be in perfect working order for them
to experience real joy. This is not so. Real joy is finding
happiness where you are and how you are.
NURTURE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS WHEN YOU HAVE THEM
Regardless of whether or not you are introverted or extroverted,
the quality of your relationships determines the
quality of your life experiences. Tons of research backs
this up: We become most like the people we spend time
with, and our happiness is directly correlated with not the
quantity of relationships we have, but the quality of each
of them; being lonely is as much of a risk to your health
as smoking. 24
However, what most people interpret this to mean is that
they should just make friends where they can find them
and be close to their biological family, even if they dislike
them. That’s totally missing the point. Happiness is not
contingent upon you forcing relationships you don’t want
to be in. It is, however, contingent upon you building and