Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

140 BRIANNA WIEST
When we try to force ourselves to “let go” of something,
we grip onto it tighter, and harder, and more passionately
than ever before. It’s like if someone tells you to not think
of a white elephant, that’s the only thing you’ll be able to
focus on.
Our hearts work the same way as our minds in this regard.
As long as we are telling ourselves that we must let go, the
more deeply we feel attached.
So don’t tell yourself to let go.
Instead, tell yourself that you can cry for as long as you
need. That you can fall to pieces and be a mess and let
your life collapse and crumble. Tell yourself that you can
let your foundation fall through.
What you will realize is that you are still standing.
What you build in the wake and the aftermath of loss will
be so profound, so stunning, you will realize that maybe
the loss was part of the plan. Maybe it awakened a part of
you that would have remained dormant had you not been
pushed the way you were.
If you are certain that you cannot let go of what is hurting
you, then don’t.
But take one step today, and another tomorrow, to rebuild
a new life for yourself. Piece by piece, day by day.