Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

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REGRET
Much like jealousy, regret is also another way that we show
ourselves not what we wish we could have done in the
past, but what we absolutely need to create going forward.
The truth is that most people regret what they did not
do more than they ever regret what they did. This isn’t a
coincidence. Regret isn’t actually trying to just make us
feel bad that we didn’t live up to our own expectations. It
is trying to motivate us to live up to them going forward.
It is trying to show us what it is absolutely imperative to
change in the future and what we really care about experiencing
before we die.
Didn’t travel when you were young? Regret is showing
you that you should do it now. Didn’t look as nice as you
wanted to? Regret is showing you that you should try
harder. Made choices that didn’t reflect your best self? Regret
is showing you that you should make different ones
now. Didn’t love someone while you had them? Regret is
showing you that you should appreciate people now.
CHRONIC FEAR
When we cannot stop returning to fearful thoughts, it is
not always because there is an actual threat in front of
us. Often, it is because our internal response systems are
underdeveloped or sidelined by trauma.