Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

7 6 BRIANNA WIEST
Shame is the shadow side of embarrassment. This is
when the natural, occasional feeling of being embarrassed
turns into a way for us to completely condemn
ourselves as human beings and begin to see ourselves as
worthless and invalid.
When we do not process the feeling of embarrassment, it
tends to turn into something far darker.
JEALOUSY
Jealousy is a cover-up emotion. It presents as anger or judgment,
when in reality it is sadness and self-dissatisfaction.
If you want to know what you truly want out of life, look
at the people who you are jealous of. No, you may not
want exactly what they have, but the feeling that you are
experiencing is anger that they are allowing themselves to
pursue it while you are not.
When we use our jealousy to judge other people’s accomplishments,
we are siding into its shadow function. When
we use our jealousy to show us what we would like to
accomplish, we begin to recognize the self-sabotaging behavior
and get ready to commit to what we actually desire.
You can think of it this way: When we see someone who
has something we really want but we are suppressing our
willingness to pursue it, we must also condemn it in them