Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

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HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Work on building a circle of people who support and inspire
you, who have similar goals and enjoy spending time
with you. You should leave a get-together feeling energized
and inspired, not exhausted and angry.
It takes time to find your group of friends, and you may
not discover that all at once. It could start with offering to
take someone you admire out for coffee, or reaching out
to do something with a person with whom you’d like to
reconnect. Slowly but genuinely rebuild your connections,
and then foster and care for them as much as you can.
WORRYING ABOUT IRRATIONAL FEARS
AND LEAST LIKELY CIRCUMSTANCES
Another very common way that people sabotage without
realizing is by preoccupying themselves with fears of
worst-case scenarios.
You’re probably familiar with this, at least to some degree:
You have a weird or highly unlikely thought that evokes a
deep sense of dread, fear, and series of “doomsday” scenarios
in your head. You then keep coming back to it to the
point that it even controls some part of your life.
Irrational fears, especially the kind that are least likely to
become reality, are often what we project real fears onto.