Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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ANGER
Anger is a beautiful, transformative emotion. It is mischaracterized
by its shadow side, aggression, and therefore
we try to resist it.
It is healthy to be angry, and anger can also show us important
aspects of who we are and what we care about. For
example, anger shows us where our boundaries are. Anger
also helps us identify what we find to be unjust.
Ultimately, anger is trying to mobilize us, to initiate action.
Anger is transformative, and it is often the peak
state we reach before we truly change our lives. This
is because anger is not intended to be projected onto
someone else; rather, it’s an influx of motivation that
helps us change what we need to change within our lives.
When we do not see it as such, we tend to bury it, not
ever resolving the real issue at hand. This is when anger
starts to cross over into aggression—when we take that
energy out on those around us as opposed to using it as
an impetus to change ourselves.
Instead of being afraid of anger, we can instead use it to
help us see our limits and priorities more clearly. We can
also use it to help us make big, important changes both for
ourselves and the world around us.