Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

138 BRIANNA WIEST
HOW TO START LETTING GO
You cannot force yourself to let go, no matter how much
you know you want to.
Right now, you are being called to release your old self:
your prior afflictions, past relationships, and all of the guilt
from the time you spent denying yourself what you really
wanted and needed out of life. Recovering from self-sabotage
always necessitates a process of letting go.
However, you cannot force something out of your brain
space, no matter how much you don’t want it to be there.
You cannot simply loosen your grip, relax a little, and will
yourself to stop thinking entirely about something around
which your entire world used to orbit.
This is not how it goes.
You are not going to let go the moment someone tells you
to “move on,” the day you realize you have to admit certain
defeat, the heart-dropping second it occurs to you that
hope is, indeed, futile.
You do not let go by simply willing yourself not to care
anymore. This is something that people who have never
been really, really hung up on something would assume.
This is something that people who have never been deeply
attached to something for a sense of safety and security
and love and their future believe.