Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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Of course, the way other people see us is dynamic. Their
thoughts, feelings, and intentions are largely if not entirely
unknown to us. The least likely outcome is just that: the
least likely outcome. There is no such thing as the path
we could have taken, only a projection of our needs and
desires onto another fantastical idea of what our lives
might be. Electric connection is not soulmateship; love
and compatibility are not the same thing.
Psychic thinking detaches us from reality. In place of logic,
we put emotions, ones that are often incorrect, unreliable,
and wholly biased toward what we want to believe.
Beyond being inconveniencing, psychic thinking is absolutely
terrible for your mental health. Psychic thinking
breeds anxiety and depression. It’s not just that something
scares or upsets us; it’s that we believe that the thought
must not only be real, but predictive of future events. Instead
of feeling like we are having a down day, psychic
thinking makes us assume we are having a terrible life.
We heard “trust yourself ” and then began to liken ourselves
to oracles, that when a particularly triggering
thought or feeling passes through us, it must indicate
something more to come.
Indeed, psychic thinking as a whole has begun taking on
an entirely new light because of the popularity of pop psychology,
dating back to the 50s and 60s. Trust yourself, the
gurus tell you. Deep down, you know the truth.