Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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feelings, such as finding genuine self-confidence in what
you do by creating something you’re proud of, or getting
better at calmly but clearly stating your boundaries and
needs in relationships.
SPENDING TIME WITH THE WRONG
PEOPLE
It’s true that so much of our lives is shaped by the people
we spend them with, and the company you keep is another
common way that people self-sabotage.
Certainly you can think of some people in your life who
stress you out, make you feel insecure, and yet keep you
coming back for more. These relationships exist at the
lighter end of the toxicity spectrum, but they are self-defeating
nonetheless.
If you find yourself preoccupied with a certain friendship
or relationship that is making you feel almost addicted to
the feeling of being “less than” or “jealous of,” you need to
gradually phase out of it. You don’t need to be mean, rude,
or even cut anyone out of your life.
You do, however, need to understand that the people you
spend the most time with will shape your future irrevocably,
and so you must choose them wisely.