Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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a matter of quieting your mind enough so you can feel all
of the unlimited potential that is begging you to be used.
There’s no such thing as self-sabotage because the behaviors
that you think are holding you back are really just
meeting your needs. It’s not a matter of trying to push
yourself beyond them; it’s a matter of seeing them for
what they are and then finding better, healthier ways to
fulfill them.
Though we live in an age where people tend to tell us that
we should be entirely self-sufficient, and to want or need
another person’s presence, validation, or company is a sign
of self-insufficiency, that is not an accurate portrayal of
what it means to be human, and it severely overlooks the
reality of human nature and connection.
Though many people are codependent and lean far too
heavily on others to give them a sense of safety and self,
leaning too far the other way—where you believe that
you don’t need anyone or anything and that you can do
everything yourself—is not healthy, either. They are two
opposite manifestations of the same wounds, which are
mistrust and the inability to connect.
Your need to feel validated is valid.
Your need to feel the presence of another person is valid.
Your need to feel wanted is valid.