Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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• Validate your feelings.
• Determine a course correction.
First, you need to understand why you’re upset or the reason
why something is bothering you so much. Without
clarity on this, you’ll continue to waste your time mulling
over the details without really understanding what’s hurting
you so much.
Next, you have to validate how you feel. Recognize that
you are not alone; anyone in your situation would probably
feel similarly (and does) and that what you feel is
absolutely okay. In doing this, you can allow yourself a
physical release such as crying, shaking, journaling about
what you feel, or talking to a trusted friend.
Once you are clear on what’s wrong and have allowed
yourself to fully express the extent of your emotions, you
can determine how you will change your behavior or
thought process so that you get an outcome that you really
want in the future.
JUSTIFICATION
Your life is ultimately measured by your outcomes, not
your intentions. It is not about what you wanted to do or
would have done but didn’t have the time. It’s not about
why you thought you couldn’t; it’s just whether or not you