Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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Making yourself less attractive can guard you.
Playing small allows you to avoid scrutiny.
Procrastinating puts you back in a place of comfort.
All the ways in which you are self-sabotaging are actually
ways that you are feeding a need you probably do not even
realize you have. Overcoming it is not only a matter of
learning to understand yourself better, but realizing that
your problems are not problems; they are symptoms.
You cannot get rid of the coping mechanisms and think
you’ve solved the problem.
WHAT DOES SELF-SABOTAGE
LOOK LIKE?
It’s impossible to say decisively what self-sabotage does
or doesn’t look like, because certain habits and behaviors
that can be healthy for one person can be unhealthy in
another context.
With that said, there are definitely some specific behaviors
and patterns that are typically indicative of self-sabotage,
and they usually relate to being aware that there’s
a problem in your life, yet feeling the need to perpetuate
it regardless. Here are some of the main signs that you’re
probably in a cycle of self-sabotage.