Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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Because sooner or later, you’re going to go an hour and
realize you didn’t think about them or it. Then a day, then
a week…and then years and swaths of your life drift by
and everything you thought would break you becomes a
distant memory, something you look back at and smile.
Everything you lose becomes something you are profoundly
grateful for. With time, you see that it was not
the path. It was what was standing in your way.
THE PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICK TO
RELEASE OLD EXPERIENCES
Just because an experience has ended doesn’t mean it’s over.
We store unfinished and unresolved emotional experiences
within our bodies. Cognitively, we often find that
we are stunted by the time in our lives in which we were
damaged or traumatized. We got scared, we never got over
the fear, and as a result, we stopped growing.
Often what we don’t realize is that the experiences that
hurt us most aren’t usually the ones that we are indifferent
about: There is something within them that we deeply
wanted or still desire. We weren’t broken by a breakup; we
were broken by wanting love that wasn’t right for us. We
weren’t devastated by a loss; we were devastated because
we wanted, so badly, for that person or thing to remain in
our lives.