Brianna Wiest - The Mountain Is You_ Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery (2020)

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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It might be constantly needing a “fresh start,” which is
often the result of not having healthy ways to deal with
stress or struggling with conflict resolution. Uprooting can
be a way of diverting attention from the actual problems
in your life, as your attention must go toward reestablishing
oneself at a new job or in a new town.
Ultimately, uprooting means you are always just beginning
your new chapter but never really finishing it. Despite
your efforts to keep moving on, you end up more
stuck than ever before.
HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
First, recognize the pattern.
One of the primary symptoms of uprooting is not realizing
that one is doing it. Therefore, the most important
step is to become aware of what’s happening. Trace back
your steps over the past few years: How many places have
you moved or worked? Then figure out what is driving you
away from each new thing you find.
Next, you need to get clear on what you really want.
Sometimes, uprooting occurs because we step too quickly
toward what we think we want, only to find that we didn’t
think it through and don’t really want that thing very
much. Clarity is key, because you’re thinking long-term
now. What would it look like to choose one place to live,
then build connections there? What would it look like to