Licking the Razor's Edge (2015)
Recognizing the hidden addictions that bind you, … to then set your True Self free
Recognizing the hidden addictions that bind you,
… to then set your True Self free
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Addiction #17 – Freedom from TALKING<br />
“It is not enough for language to have clarity and content … It must also have a noble<br />
purpose and an caring imperative. O<strong>the</strong>rwise from such hollow language we descend to<br />
idle chatter, from idle chatter to inane babble, and from inane babble to cool distance<br />
and frigid separation.” ~ inspired by Rene Daumal<br />
Researchers at Ohio State University have found that people today crave appreciation<br />
more than food, drinking, money and even sex … suggesting something of a self-esteem<br />
addiction; an addiction often slaked with hollow communication & meaningless chatter.<br />
We humans are social animals, and as such, we instinctively crave not only contact with<br />
o<strong>the</strong>rs, but to be recognized and accepted by <strong>the</strong>m as well. Consequently, many of us use<br />
banal conversation as a way to connect with o<strong>the</strong>rs when we feel lonely &/or<br />
disconnected from our True Selves; using <strong>the</strong> attention of o<strong>the</strong>rs to gain a sense of selfapproval<br />
in those times when we do not approve of ourselves. Essentially, we often speak<br />
not to communicate with o<strong>the</strong>rs, but ra<strong>the</strong>r merely to be heard by <strong>the</strong>m.<br />
We do so whenever we speak not to share an experience, but ra<strong>the</strong>r to entertain o<strong>the</strong>rs or<br />
amuse <strong>the</strong>m. We do so whenever we speak not to discuss an idea, but ra<strong>the</strong>r to convince<br />
o<strong>the</strong>rs that our particular position is correct. We do so whenever we speak not to<br />
courageously relay our personal Truths, but ra<strong>the</strong>r to show o<strong>the</strong>rs that we “fit in”; to gain<br />
<strong>the</strong>ir approval; to hold onto our “friends”.<br />
In <strong>the</strong>se ways, our talking has become a tool used to soo<strong>the</strong> our own fears &/or to<br />
manipulate <strong>the</strong> unease of o<strong>the</strong>rs … In <strong>the</strong>se ways, our talking has become an addiction.<br />
“What is <strong>the</strong> name of <strong>the</strong> 12-Step program for folks who talk a lot?<br />
… On & On Anon.” ~ unknown<br />
REDISCOVERING WHERE YOU ARE ADDICTED<br />
I would venture to say that no one reading this chapter is immune from this addiction,<br />
and yet you can provide yourself with a bit more perspective on <strong>the</strong> matter by considering<br />
<strong>the</strong> following questions:<br />
*Do you interrupt o<strong>the</strong>rs when you have something “important” to say?<br />
*Do you think about your response to a person’s story or statement before <strong>the</strong>y are<br />
finished sharing <strong>the</strong> same?<br />
*Do you find yourself “one-upping” <strong>the</strong> funny or bizarre stories of o<strong>the</strong>rs?<br />
*Do you talk frequently about <strong>the</strong> wea<strong>the</strong>r, how busy you are, or how tired you are?<br />
*Do you discuss politics or politicians more than once a week?<br />
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