Licking the Razor's Edge (2015)

The SOURCE of our NEGATIVITY ADDICTION
“All negativity is an mere illusion, created by the ego-mind to protect itself and ensure
the continuation of its reign over our lives.” ~ inspired by Ambika Wauters
For the majority of “negaholics”, the source of their addiction rests in three-headed
“beast” that most often begins to dominate life at an early age …
Psychologically, when a child lacks regular doses of positive affirmation, he or she will
seek that attention using negative mans (e.g. temper tantrums, moping, whining,
complaining, acting out, etc). This mindset tends to follow the child into adulthood,
surfacing in behaviors such as moping, complaining and criticizing.
Intellectually, when a child lacks a healthy amount of mental or emotional stimulation, he
or she will seek that excitement using negative means (e.g. creating drama or responding
melodramatically). This “program” tends to follow the child into adulthood as well, and
is reflected in behaviors such as gossiping, bemoaning and depression.
Physiologically, every negative response to any “crisis” causes a rush of “opiate
peptides” to be released into one’s bloodstream; a rush to which one easily becomes
addicted over time. This “high” comes whenever a situation is rejected, whenever you
reject or condemn another person, whenever another person criticizes you, and even
whenever you happen to criticize yourself.
“Negative emotions activate the reward centers of the brain, causing an unconscious
addiction to those negative emotions.” ~ Dr. Ali Binazir
In essence, negativity becomes not only the base-program you adhere to when responding
to unpleasant situations, it also becomes your favorite “drug of choice” to help you deal
with the stress caused by those events.
The CONSEQUENCES of our NEGATIVITY
Many folks pass off their cycle of negativity as insignificant – a mere series of fleeting
“bad moods” that are simply a standard part of “being human” …
Nothing could be further from the Truth.
While negativity has become “normal” for many of us, it is by no means a natural human
trait. Negativity is a choice — and it is anything but insignificant when it is chosen.
Negativity has many serious side-effects – consequences that keep us from realizing real
Meaning and from knowing real Happiness in our lives.
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