Licking the Razor's Edge (2015)

TIP #09: POINT 3 FINGERS BACK …
This final Tip is one of the most powerfully effective ways I know to bring Peace into
your life, and I am both honored & thrilled to share it with you. It centers around a very
simple, yet not very well known psychological Truth: namely, that every time anyone
points one finger at you, they are actually pointing three fingers back at themselves.
Allow me to elaborate.
It is important to understand that all of your frustration and all of your annoyance and all
of your anger are nothing more than projections of how you are feeling about yourself in
those moments. It is a simple Truth that where there is anger or agitation or frustration,
there is also underlying pain. If we are truly at Peace with ourselves and have accepted
our lives, then we have no choice but to remain calm when criticized and to exude
Compassion towards those who treat us poorly. As such, our agitation whenever they do
so is not so much us accurately discerning their “poor behavior”, as it is us evidencing
our own internal lack of harmony.
As such, any time we criticize others – or gossip about them – or analyze their motives,
we are actually using their behaviors as an springboard to broadcast our dissatisfaction
with ourselves; to project our own pain & our own suffering & our own dissatisfaction
into our own environment …
… and the same is true of others whenever they happen to criticize us.
And this Truth has three very powerful, very practical applications for our everyday lives:
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