Licking the Razor's Edge (2015)

Most importantly of all, almost nowhere in any of these studies or discussions or reports
do we read or hear the word “LOVE” …
… and THIS, my dear friends, is a very serious problem indeed.
THE CONSEQUENCES OF HAVING SEX
“I don’t think I ever met a student who was sorry he or she postponed sexual activity, but
I have certainly met very many who deeply regretted their sexual activities. Time and
time again, I have seen the long-term emotional and spiritual desolation that results from
casual sex and promiscuity … No one ever tells us that it sometimes takes years to
recover from casual sexual involvements – if one ever fully recovers at all.” ~ Dr.
Carson Daly, college counselor
I could go on & on about casual sex and the risks of unwanted pregnancies or the dangers
of sexually transmitted diseases, and yet these topics are common knowledge and thus
tend to be a bit boring. As such, we’ll skip them entirely and get to some important, yet
not too well-known facts about casual sex …
FACT #01 – CASUAL SEX IS PHYSICALLY ADDICTIVE
Endorphins released during sexual activity create a euphoria similar to that produced by
opioid drug use. These same endorphins also act as extremely potent pain killers – which
provide chemically-based, short-lived experiences of pleasure that become highly
addictive. And, like any physical addiction, the more one engages the practice that brings
the “high”, the less pleasure users end up experiencing from it.
This has those people who are addicted to sex desiring more & more of it, in more &
more different positions, in more & more different locations, and eventually with more &
more different partners — behaviors all designed to reproduce that “pinnacle of pleasure”
one experiences the first few times one has casual sex with a partner. And yet, the
physiology of the addiction means that the more sex one has, the farther and farther away
from that goal one gets.
FACT #02 – CASUAL SEX DAMAGES ONE’S SENSE OF SELF-WORTH
Women want to feel Loved (and to Love), and yet casual sex robs them of this Gift. Is
this why studies have consistently shown that casual sex leads to bouts of severe
depression in women? Women produce oxytocin during sex, a chemical that inspires
them to feel close to a partner &/or nurture their young. As such, casual sex is especially
damaging for women, because going against this powerful nurturing instinct creates
immense feelings of dissatisfaction, self-degradation and depression.
Men want to Love (& feel Loved), and yet casual sex makes them feel like a warrior
instead. Is this why there has been a strong correlation shown between men who engage
in regular casual sex and men who commit date-rapes and other “crimes of passion”?
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