Licking the Razor's Edge (2015)

FACT #03 – CASUAL SEX DAMAGES THE ABILITY TO KNOW INTIMACY
If we were merely physical beings, then this fact wouldn’t be that important, and yet
every one of us innately understands the Truth that we are far more than mere instinctbased
animals.
*We are more than a selfish ego – we also have a conscience;
*We are more than our power-craving instincts – we also have a conscious Self-
Awareness (i.e. the ability to choose how we respond to our desires);
*We are more than self-centered cravings to “survive & procreate” – we also have the
ability and the desire to truly Care for each other.
Casual sex rewards the primitive “animal” side of us, while ignoring the deeper
“spiritual” side. It strokes the part of us interested in self-preservation, while dismissing
the part of us interested in furthering the overall well-being of others. It champions the
falsehood that we are “only human” (and thereby destined to “lust” & “sin”), and rejects
the Truth that we are Human(e) Beings who can choose to set instincts aside in favor of
actions that are Caring.
These are not statements meant to judge or criticize any of you. They are simply facts
worth considering — and the consequences of these facts are well-documented. We
already know that children who have been sexually molested remain deeply damaged
emotionally & psychologically for many years (if not for the rest of their lives). Of
course, what many people do not realize is that cheapening the powerful act of
Lovemaking – i.e. turning it into “just sex” – injures its adult participants just as deeply.
Consider the following:
*People engaging in regular acts of casual sex have much less success in sustaining
meaningful, longer-term relationships (i.e. they rarely come to know real Love).
*Women (and men) want to be emotionally intimate during Love-making, and yet casual
sex is only a hollow physical expression. Is this why 40% of all women report preferring
masturbation to sex?
*Men (and women) want to please their partners, and yet casual sex is primarily about
pleasing one’s self. There is no real giving pleasure to one’s partner because the partner is
essentially doing that already. Within a matter of months (if not days) this becomes
patently unfulfilling. Is this why almost half of all men (and over half of all women) have
faked an orgasm at least once in their lives?
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