Licking the Razor's Edge (2015)

Sex -- A Way OUT
“One thing I’ve learned in all these years is not to make love when you really don’t feel
it; there’s probably nothing worse you can do to yourself than that.” ~ Norman Mailer
I guess I need to start out by stating that I fully understand that most of you are going to
either continue to engage in sexual intercourse &/or are going to continue to wish you
were engaging in it … This is fine by me. I do not believe that sex itself is “bad” or
“wrong” in any way.
And please understand that I am not here to berate you or criticize you or try to change
who you are. To the contrary, this entire book on addiction is actually designed to make it
easier for you to rediscover your True Self – by informing you of the very real
consequences stemming from your self-destructive choices. It is not my goal to persuade;
but rather to give you each the information needed to make decisions in the future that are
as well-informed as they are consciously Caring.
Smoking cigarettes isn’t “bad”, and yet it does kill not only the smoker, but the ones the
smoker loves as well … Eating animals isn’t “bad”, and yet doing so is a direct violation
of those beings’ very real Right to Live – a Right every bit as viable as your own …
Drinking coffee & eating processed sugar aren’t “bad”, and yet they do shift your body
into a state of “fight or flight” – a state where fear rules the day, and where Love is
difficult to deeply feel and almost impossible to purely share.
Similarly, casual sex between two consenting adults is not “bad” either. Indeed, sexual
union is the very source of each of our lives – it is the very means that our individual
“self” came into existence in the first pace. So to brand it as “wrong” in any way is to
label life itself as incorrect.
And yet, sex does carry with it the severe consequences that I mentioned previously. And
if you are interested in avoiding these consequences, I will now share a few practical tips
that can help you to do so …
TURNING SEX INTO LOVE-MAKING
As long as one or both parties involved in an act of sexual intercourse are doing so solely
for their own personal benefit (pleasure or power or even punishment), then the encounter
will – without a shadow of a doubt — damage both parties.
On the other hand, when both parties choose to make sexual intercourse an expression of
affection that is Candid & Caring & Conscious, the harms of casual sex disappear and are
replaced by deep-seated feelings of Peace and Joy.
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