Licking the Razor's Edge (2015)

*Do you provoke arguments? Do you regularly go out of your way to avoid conflict?
*Do you replace intimacy in your relationship with gift-giving?
*Do you abandon your own hobbies, interests or friends for your partner, or do you
immerse yourself in your own hobbies, interest of friends to the detriment of
relationship?
*Do you want to be taken care of by your partner? Do you fear being forced to do so?
*Do you receive criticism &/or unsolicited advice from your partner more than once a
month? Do you give the same to your partner more than once a month?
*Can you identify five things that are missing from your relationship more quickly than
five blessings it brings you?
The questions where you answered in the affirmative are the areas in your relationship
where “love addiction” has taken root; areas where your fears have taken precedence
over your LOVE; indeed, where your partner’s LOVE can no longer be received and
where your own LOVE can no longer be given. These are the “weeds” in your Heart’s
“garden”, and true LOVE will not be able to bloom in your life until these area have been
“weeded” and replanted with thoughts that are Caring & actions that are Kind.
Remember, as long as you are focusing on what your partner is not giving you, you
cannot hope to Give to your partner. And until you choose to Give to your partner, you
will never experience true LOVE yourself.
“Among the blessings of Love there is hardly one more exquisite than the sense that in
uniting the Beloved life to ours we can watch over her happiness, bring comfort where
hardship once was, and upon the memories of her suffering open the sweetest fountains
of Joy.” ~ inspired by George Eliot
Romance -- A Way OUT
“Happiness is yours in the here and now. The painful states of anxiety and loneliness can
be easily abolished … You are not at the mercy of your unfulfilled cravings … You
possess a True Self; a True Self that can do something about every one of your unhappy
situations. While living in the world you can also be inwardly detached from its sorrows,
allowing you to live with peace and sanity.” ~ inspired by Vernon Howard
First of all, as I only indirectly mentioned previously, there are two kinds of “Love
Addicts” – the more common “Affection Addict” who clings too tightly to their beloved,
and the less obvious “Avoidance Addict” who repeatedly pushes their beloved away. And
it is important to realize that even though these two behaviors seem to form two very
different addictions, they are actually both founded in the same aversion, namely, a fear
of real Intimacy.
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