Great-Bliss-Tantric-Sex-and-the-Path-to-Inner-Awakening

into an expanded experience of the Clear Light. You can use either of two images. The first is to
focus together on yourselves dissolving like the waning of breath on a mirror, called Evaporating
(Piṇḍagrāha). The second is to meditate on yourselves like a drop of water dissolving into a
flowing stream, called Dissolving (Anubheda). You then return from the Clear Light into the
Great Bliss. This technique is a shorter, more advanced version of Clear Light Yoga.
Meditative Lovemaking
Meditative Lovemaking (Maithuna) is the foundation of sexual yoga. Although it can be
practiced as a separate technique, its principles are intended to be followed with all sexual yoga
lovemaking methods. It is a continuous state of open, spacious, and relaxed awareness. Your task
is to keep your focus on pleasure as you make love, without losing your focus. The
Caṇḍamahāroṣaṇa Tantra teaches, “Concentrate upon the pleasure arising from desire.” The text
also praises spending time in motionless meditation while making love, advising, “Become
motionless, with one-pointed mind. Without moving, meditate on the pleasure arising from that
with a fixed mind.” Finally, this Tantra stresses the importance of extended practice over long
periods of time. It guides the woman to say to her man, “Give me a thousand strokes, one
hundred thousand, ten million, one hundred million, in my three-petaled lotus, bound round with
flesh.” Meditative absorption is a crucial basis for realization, without which all actions of
making love fail as a yoga.
Recognizing each other as sacred partners, as pure emanations of the dharmakāya freely
choosing to delight in each other, you begin to make love. You keep your awareness meditative,
breathing deeply and slowly, focusing on pleasurable sensations and the joy of being together.
You do not try to make each other have an orgasm, just focus on deepening your pleasure and
your heart connection. You move together as a spontaneous, moving meditation for two. Be
creative and avoid getting stuck in habitual patterns of pleasure. Making love is an art form and
you are the artist. You follow the subtle energy currents with your awareness in and around your
bodies as the sexual energy builds, and support each other as a team in reaching deeper states of
meditative absorption.
Controlling Male Ejaculation
Male ejaculation (rūṣya) is one of the great miracles of lovemaking. The power generated is
strong enough to shift a man’s entire body and mind along with his lover into intense bliss. And
it is a doorway to enlightenment. But in order to generate high and prolonged states of bliss, a
man must learn to control his ejaculation. With practice, he can penetrate his lover for hours
without ejaculating, and choose when he wants to, leaving his lover fully satisfied.
A common misunderstanding of sexual yoga is the idea that the male practitioner is not supposed
to ejaculate. Some statements in the Tantras and commentaries do say this. However, they do not
refer to not ejaculating at all, but consciously controlling and delaying ejaculation to extend
sexual pleasure and saturate your body and mind with bliss. To be able to practice the Four
Blisses successfully, for example, the man must be able to maintain his erection through the first
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