WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
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136 <strong>WHEN</strong> <strong>YOU</strong> <strong>CROSS</strong> <strong>CULTURES</strong><br />
respond. Sometimes, you may accept the invitation prematurely. At other times,<br />
you may refuse and cause hurt.<br />
When going from one culture to another, a most important motto to<br />
keep in mind is “NOT WRONG, BUT DIFFERENT”. Eating noisily by slurping<br />
your soup would be impolite in a Western culture but in parts of Asia, it is often<br />
a sign that you are enjoying your food! Not wrong, but different!<br />
B Lifestyle and Relationship Stresses – Adjusting To Cultural Values<br />
The second kind of stress comes from unavoidable changes to a new<br />
way of living and relating to people. These are lifestyle and relationship stresses.<br />
Here, cultural values are involved. Facing these different values and having to<br />
make changes will cause stress. Values relate to matters such as personal privacy,<br />
use of time, money and cleanliness.<br />
The first kind of stress, culture shock, can be overcome over a short period<br />
of time. The second kind related to deep-seated values will be more difficult to<br />
handle. Frustrations together with a negative attitude to people and the culture<br />
can deplete the energies of the worker and his family. On the other hand, the<br />
capacity of the worker to accept the situation and learn to live with it will help<br />
to reduce stress. Let us look further into some of these stresses.<br />
1 Personal Privacy<br />
Living in New Zealand, my wife and I observed that personal privacy is<br />
highly respected. In many areas, homes will not have fences or gates. In crowded<br />
and noisy Asia, retreating into the quiet privacy of one’s own home may not be<br />
possible. Your neighbours or strangers walk past your gate and peer over your<br />
fence. Their staring inquisitively at you or looking intently at your home may<br />
appear to be their past time. There is often nothing you can do to change such<br />
behaviour.<br />
Because relationships play an important part in ministry, the home of<br />
the missionary is often open for hospitality. When my wife and I were involved<br />
in a grassroots student ministry in Malaysia and New Zealand, we had students<br />
in our home continually. Although we enjoyed ministering to them, the demands<br />
of hospitality would place additional stresses for my wife. We also had students<br />
and young graduates live in our home for Christian training. Having times<br />
alone to ourselves would be rare.<br />
Women are usually expected to serve and therefore will experience greater<br />
stress with the demands of hospitality. My wife would serve our visitors meals<br />
we normally ate rather than add sumptuous extras which are really unnecessary.