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THE PREVENTION OF STRESS 155 To learn about ourselves and our personalities is not always easy. We need to be honest with ourselves. Psalm 139 tells us that only God knows us through and through, and in detail. The more we know about ourselves, the more we can prayerfully deal with aspects of our lives that need changing. We must also be realistic about our limitations, recognising our humanity. With God’s help and increasing insight, qualities of life that hinder our growth in Christlike character can be dealt with. However, some of our weaknesses will not be totally eradicated. With God’s enabling power, they can be checked and controlled. Later in this chapter is a Personality Assessment exercise for cross-cultural workers. It is designed to help the candidate in his or her adjustments to a new culture. In relation to stress, certain aspects of our personality make us more stress prone. We need to recognise these. Learning about ourselves can help us deal with situations in the areas of our emotions and attitudes, and our self-esteem.
156 WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES CHAPTER TWENTY ONE HANDLING OUR EMOTIONS AND ATTITUDES Stressful situations can happen unexpectedly on the mission field. We can minimise the intensity of stress by learning to handle our emotions and attitudes. In fact, stress can even work for us, instead of against us. To minimise our stress, we can avoid situations that are likely to produce undesirable responses. We can also remove ourselves from stressful situations. At other times, avoidance or retreat is not wise. Frustrations are common on the mission field. The extreme summer heat can frustrate us. The traffic can be frustrating. The long waits at public or airline offices can be unbearable. Feelings of annoyance and anger may surface when we face some situation that frustrates us. Our negative emotions need to be released safely. People, who need an outlet for their frustrations, may release their emotions in various ways. A frustrated missionary wife once stormed out of her home. She jumped into a passing trishaw and asked the driver to take her on a ride around the block. The surprised driver obediently followed her instructions and received his payment. She returned to the house feeling much better! Hidden feelings of hostility which have not been dealt with can cause greater stress. These feelings will spill out on others sooner or later. Hurts can be handled effectively if we acknowledge them. Fears or phobias are also not unusual on the field. We may fear crowds or strangers; we may fear animals and creatures or we may fear dirt, germs and contamination. Fears are not always bad. They can make us more alert, sensitive and perceptive. They make us more prepared to meet crises. However, they become abnormal when their intensity and character are out of proportion to the dangers encountered. When fears cause deep anxieties, they need to be addressed rationally. Trying to deny them will not help. Learning to change our thought patterns can alter seemingly negative situations to positive ones. We can choose our own attitudes. Scripture encourages a host of good attitudes. Here are some of them:
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