WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
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144 <strong>WHEN</strong> <strong>YOU</strong> <strong>CROSS</strong> <strong>CULTURES</strong><br />
2 SUPPRESSION<br />
When unpleasant emotions are experienced, we can either express these<br />
feelings or consciously suppress them. Putting these thoughts away without<br />
dealing with their inner cause will mean storing them up. They will be released<br />
some time later in other ways. The unconscious process of storage is termed<br />
“repression” by psychologists.<br />
A missionary trainee had faced many relationship and other adjustment<br />
problems on the field. When older supervisors tried to help him, he found it<br />
difficult to openly share his inner struggles. He would internalise many of his<br />
fears and suspicions. When he returned from the field, I had some sessions<br />
listening to him. Because I knew him well, he would talk for more than three<br />
hours each time. He had suppressed some of these feelings on the field. As he<br />
matured, he made progress and now he serves on the field with a responsible<br />
occupation and role.<br />
3 PROJECTION<br />
Through projection, we find fault with others. We attribute to them the<br />
characteristics that we cannot accept in ourselves. We project attitudes, feelings,<br />
weaknesses or failures to others. When blinded from reality, and truth is<br />
distorted, we feel justified in criticising others and in taking out our frustrations<br />
on them. The person who makes quick judgments or rash criticisms often uses<br />
this defence mechanism.<br />
I know an Asian Christian worker who would treat others graciously<br />
and politely. On the surface, he would seem to have all the social graces. But he<br />
had a volatile temperament. When under stress, he would lose his temper and<br />
instead of calmly dealing with the issues at hand, he would lash out at people.<br />
He would criticise other workers for some of the attributes seen in his own life.<br />
If a person sees these characteristics and deals with them seriously, there<br />
is hope for change. But if he does not recognise his need, then change may be<br />
extremely difficult. The person will gradually develop an unforgiving spirit and<br />
also miss the joyful experience of being forgiven. Such a person will find himself<br />
living in suspicion of people and attacking them in direct or indirect ways.<br />
Bitterness not only defiles others, but it is a form of “self-cannibalism” that will<br />
ruin a worker’s life and ministry.<br />
Asian cultures are described as “shame” cultures rather than “guilt”<br />
cultures. However, both guilt and shame are prevalent in interpersonal<br />
relationships. It is common for Asians to take the blame for violating a code of<br />
conduct rather than offend someone. Sometimes, a person may put the blame<br />
on circumstances rather than embarrass another. People will avoid causing<br />
shame or embarrassment to an individual, his family or community in Asian