WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
WHEN YOU CROSS CULTURES - World Evangelical Alliance
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170 <strong>WHEN</strong> <strong>YOU</strong> <strong>CROSS</strong> <strong>CULTURES</strong><br />
CHAPTER TWENTY FOUR<br />
BUILDING HEALTHY<br />
RELATIONSHIPS<br />
Relationships with people can be a major source of stress. As a young<br />
missionary trainee, I had observed the tensions between missionaries –<br />
between leaders and subordinates, between missionaries and local leaders,<br />
between co-labourers on the same team.<br />
One major cause for the premature return of missionaries to their<br />
homeland is related to interpersonal problems. These problems can erupt at<br />
any phase of a work.<br />
In one field, an Asian missionary found it difficult to communicate with<br />
his field leader. He felt his leader should promote the views of national leaders,<br />
but the leader would not listen to him. His leader, a godly and sensitive person,<br />
found that the missionary was not particularly teachable in certain ministry<br />
directions. Soon they could not communicate. Among Asians, confrontation is<br />
not considered a virtue. Sadly, their strained relationship continued for more<br />
than ten years. Other members of the team noticed the tension that existed.<br />
But they overlooked the problems because they felt that showed loyalty to the<br />
leader and to fellow team members. Team morale and spirit weakened as a<br />
result. Only years later did another supervisor notice these tensions and take<br />
the time to resolve the strains.<br />
Disagreements on the field are not uncommon, and they need to be<br />
resolved as speedily as possible. The example in Scripture of Paul and Barnabas<br />
indicates that disputes can be sharp (Acts 15:36-40). Solutions may not always<br />
be ideal, but parties involved need to meet together and resolve conflicts.<br />
In an Asian setting, direct confrontation between parties may not always<br />
be the best way. Usually a neutral person, preferably an older godly man who<br />
is respected by the Christian community, can be called upon to mediate. An<br />
amicable atmosphere needs to prevail and times of prayer are essential.<br />
Having been involved in many situations where conflicts have had to be<br />
resolved, I have learned that it takes a process of time, hard work and prayer<br />
for reconciliation to be complete, and harmony to be restored. Occasionally, a<br />
conflict may never be fully resolved.