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The problem is that what works for one person doesn't
work for everyone — not all guys, and not on all girls. They
were telling guys things like:
• Touch a girl when she talks to you.
• Criticize a girl (sorry, I mean "neg").
• When a girl seems uninterested, she's just playing games.
• Don't talk about "real" topics, like education and your job.
They're too "boring."
• no woman is out of your league.
The problem here is that touching can be flirty, but it can
also be really creepy when the touching isn't natural. And
when you're telling an awkward, nerdy guy who has no idea
how to flirt "okay, now, touch a girl here," it's almost always
creepy. (Personally, I don't like random guys at bars touching
me. It makes me really uncomfortable.)
And then you're telling the guy to criticize the girl, which
is just plain mean.
And then, when the girl isn't interested, the guy is now
being told, "oh, she's just trying to play games with you." He
doesn't back off. eww.
And all of this is ridiculous because sometimes, the girl is
out of your league, or at least just isn't interested. I'm 5'9 and
I'm just not going to go home with a guy who is 5'3, goes by
the nickname "Snake" (seriously?!?), overweight, pimply, and
won't just answer a direct question about what he does for a
living. But he keeps pursuing because, well, "I'm just playing
games with him." I'm trying to see if he passes some test, apparently.
These are the sort of repeated interactions I had with guys
in the PUA community, and why I got turned against it. once
upon a time, this guy might have been a perfectly normal but
nerdy guy, who could have dated online, met someone nice,
got married, and been perfectly happy.
PUA instruction turns awkward, nerdy guys who just
want a girlfriend into creepy guys who harass and insult
women. And that's not okay!
PUA instruction teaches guys these mechanical ways of
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