The-Conquest-of-Happiness-by-Bertrand-Russell

which are the cause of failure to obtain love in
later years. This is perhaps more true where men
are concerned than it is as regards women, for on
the whole women tend to love men for their
character while men tend to love women for their
appearance. In this respect, it must be said, men
show themselves the inferiors of women, for the
qualities that men find pleasing in women are on
the whole less desirable than those that women
find pleasing in men. I am not at all sure, however,
that it is easier to acquire a good character than a
good appearance; at any rate, the steps necessary
for the latter are better understood and more
readily pursued by women than are the steps
necessary for the former by men.
We have been speaking hitherto of the affection of
which a person is the object. I wish now to speak
of the affection that a person gives. This also is of
two different kinds, one of which is perhaps the
most important expression of a zest for life, while
the other is an expression of fear. The former
seems to me wholly admirable, while the latter is