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writes Keltner. Indeed, Keltner, who istra<strong>in</strong>ed <strong>in</strong> read<strong>in</strong>g people’s faces, hasstudied photos <strong>of</strong> moral heroes likeGandhi and the Dalai Lama and foundthat they feature just such controlledsmiles and averted eyes.In his book, Born to Be Good, Keltnereven says that if he had to choose hismate by ask<strong>in</strong>g a s<strong>in</strong>gle question at aspeed-dat<strong>in</strong>g event, the question hewould choose is: “What was your lastembarrass<strong>in</strong>g experience?” <strong>The</strong>n hewould watch very carefully for lippresses,blush<strong>in</strong>g, and averted eyes.“<strong>The</strong> elements <strong>of</strong> the embarrassmentare fleet<strong>in</strong>g statements the <strong>in</strong>dividualmakes about his or her respect for thejudgment <strong>of</strong> others,” he writes. “Embarrassmentreveals how much the <strong>in</strong>dividualcares about the rules that b<strong>in</strong>dus to one another.”418/929

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