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This portrayal <strong>of</strong> courtship as a highstakesperformance reflected the boldnew mores <strong>of</strong> the Culture <strong>of</strong> Personality.Under the restrictive (<strong>in</strong> some casesrepressive) social codes <strong>of</strong> the Culture<strong>of</strong> Character, both genders displayedsome reserve when it came to the mat<strong>in</strong>gdance. Women who were too loudor made <strong>in</strong>appropriate eye contact withstrangers were considered brazen.Upper-class women had more license tospeak than did their lower-class counterparts,and <strong>in</strong>deed were judged partlyon their talent for witty repartee, buteven they were advised to displayblushes and downcast eyes. <strong>The</strong>y werewarned by conduct manuals that “thecoldest reserve” was “more admirable<strong>in</strong> a woman a man wishe[d] to makehis wife than the least approach to unduefamiliarity.” Men could adopt aquiet demeanor that implied self-84/929

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