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new people, but also to new places andevents. So don’t mistake your child’scaution <strong>in</strong> new situations for an <strong>in</strong>abilityto relate to others. He’s recoil<strong>in</strong>gfrom novelty or overstimulation, not fromhuman contact. As we saw <strong>in</strong> the lastchapter, <strong>in</strong>troversion-extroversionlevels are not correlated with eitheragreeableness or the enjoyment <strong>of</strong> <strong>in</strong>timacy.<strong>Introverts</strong> are just as likely asthe next kid to seek others’ <strong>com</strong>pany,though <strong>of</strong>ten <strong>in</strong> smaller doses.<strong>The</strong> key is to expose your childgradually to new situations andpeople—tak<strong>in</strong>g care to respect his limits,even when they seem extreme. Thisproduces more-confident kids thaneither overprotection or push<strong>in</strong>g toohard. Let him know that his feel<strong>in</strong>gs arenormal and natural, but also thatthere’s noth<strong>in</strong>g to be afraid <strong>of</strong>: “I knowit can feel funny to play with someone703/929

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