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a woman who is especially put <strong>of</strong>f byanger. So he needs to respond to theconflict-avoidant wife he has, not theconfrontational one that he wishes, atleast <strong>in</strong> the heat <strong>of</strong> the moment, hewere married to.Now let’s look at Emily’s side <strong>of</strong> theequation. What could she be do<strong>in</strong>g differently?She’s right to protest whenGreg bites—when he attacks unfairly—butwhat about when he hisses?Emily might address her own counterproductivereactions to anger, amongthem her tendency to slip <strong>in</strong>to a cycle<strong>of</strong> guilt and defensiveness. We knowfrom chapter 6 that many <strong>in</strong>troverts areprone from earliest childhood to strongguilt feel<strong>in</strong>gs; we also know that we alltend to project our own reactions ontoothers. Because conflict-avoidant Emilywould never “bite” or even hiss unlessGreg had done someth<strong>in</strong>g truly662/929

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