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punch<strong>in</strong>g by herself. As Dr. KennethRub<strong>in</strong>, the director <strong>of</strong> the Center forChildren, Relationships and Culture atthe University <strong>of</strong> Maryland, writes, “Ifyou’re consistent <strong>in</strong> help<strong>in</strong>g your youngchild learn to regulate his or her emotionsand behaviors <strong>in</strong> sooth<strong>in</strong>g andsupportive ways, someth<strong>in</strong>g rather magicalwill beg<strong>in</strong> to happen: <strong>in</strong> time, youmight watch your daughter seem to besilently reassur<strong>in</strong>g herself: ‘Those kidsare hav<strong>in</strong>g fun, I can go over there.’ Heor she is learn<strong>in</strong>g to self-regulate fearfulnessand war<strong>in</strong>ess.”If you want your child to learn theseskills, don’t let her hear you call her“shy”: she’ll believe the label and experienceher nervousness as a fixedtrait rather than an emotion she cancontrol. She also knows full well that“shy” is a negative word <strong>in</strong> our society.706/929

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