Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

longor young (she was in hor mid-sixties)
and my fotlier was now clironicolly Ill, slio
did not think she could liolp mu with tho
baby and so sha, too, thought that adoption
would bo tho bost thing. (Just boforo
she diod, my motlior asked me if I over
hoord onyttiing about my first baby end
when I told hor no, she said: "Thoy don't
soem to wont to lot you bo with him, do
thoy?" It was tlion I realized she had never
understood the signiflcanco of adoption.)
During my noxt appointment with Miss
Walloco I showod hor my motlior's lottor
and slio remorkod that if tho pnronts did not
tako In an unwed daughtor and her baby tho
only other solution was odoption.
I also wroto to the psychiotrist I had soon at
the titno whon I hod boon so doprossod, but
his reply modo little senso to me. He wroto
sornetliing to tho effect lliot I had gotten
pragriorit bocauso I was lnsocuro as a
woman but that prognoncy wouldn't liolp
mu ovorconio my lnsocuritios. With rogard
to whot I should do about tho baby, ha
WrotU that iovo moorit pulling tho wolfarc
of anothor oheod of my own doslros ond if I
could find mysolf oblo to do that my
problorn would bo solvod. Riolitly or
wrongly, I interpreted that to mean that lie
was advising odoption. Looking back, I
think this wos on ovcrsimplificotion. It is
not enough to be willing to put another porson's
welfare ohoad of your own. It takos
ludgomont to know whot ore tho bost interosts
of ony given person. And thot is tho
difficult part.
Thoro was also something in tho
psychiatrist's letter about o potlont of his
who was adopted. I-lo told me this woman
hod spent yoars searching for hor birthporents,
thinking thot finding thom would
solvo hor emotional problems. Evontually
sho found hor birthmothor and, years lator,
hor blrthfothor: but by tliot titno tlioy had so
rostructurod their livos tlioy found it difficult
to fit hor in.
I sliowod tlils lottar to Miss Wollaco and slto
said the psychiatrist soomod liko a kind ond
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