Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption
Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption
Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption
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Lrllrrs lo Dpcn Column nto lnvltcd lrom all<br />
rcndctr and wlll bo publlrhad On a,apacs<br />
av~lloble bnrls. Lellcrs mu51 bc no lonoor<br />
thnl ., ... 350 . . word* . -. .. and - -<br />
snnlrod n<br />
bv Iho nulhor.<br />
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Hovcvcr. Thr, Trlbunrwlll wllhhold lhs w,ll.<br />
-el', nnm'e II requeslcd. Colletr or@ vcrlllod<br />
and urn nublec~ to adlllnO and condonso.<br />
lion.<br />
'Urazen greed'<br />
Edilor, n ~ Tribune: c T~IS wrllcr reccnlly<br />
hnd the cdlfyltig experlcncc of<br />
watching lormcr Vlce Prcsldenl Agncw on<br />
lelevlslon. .n11s proud. flghl.wlng, lolnlly<br />
and Russlnns ban kill each olhcr 20 timcs<br />
ovcr, nevcrmlrl$ I1 nt cnch gmup 01 people<br />
hns nll ILcnri dd i o toke cprc of ils own<br />
citllcrci-pcoplc Pbc Apcw have lo pm.<br />
molc lklr ncfnriouflntcresfs wllh n "holc<br />
objccl." Not n "lovc. bJect"-a "hale ob-<br />
Jccl!" 1 t *<br />
n h Rcngan feel lhal<br />
might lose &me ol U~clr consldcrnblc<br />
nlflucnec. Nelllrr one gives n damn nhul<br />
the Arncricbn lroplc cvcn though Ulcy<br />
pntc nbolll. ~IIC "Amcrlcnn pecpul" con.<br />
, slanlly. Thdy nrc complclcly selfish, oul<br />
for nll they cm personnlly get lhclr J~nndr<br />
on md Ice1 hurl bccnusc mosl Amcrlcnns<br />
slrongly brnzcn grccd nnd sclflsl~ncss, for<br />
lhc bcnelll of our nolnblc nnd cxpnndlm:<br />
nrlslocrncy. And nl lhc expense of our<br />
commoncn who nrc slcndlly growlnk<br />
paorcr nnd pwrcr.<br />
Sln11 Unrkrr<br />
Ccnlrnlin<br />
'Roots and wings'<br />
Edilor. Ihc Trlbut~c: "There nrc only 1<br />
two lmtlng bcquesls we CM glvc our<br />
children: on! Is rwG. lhc other Is<br />
wlngs."<br />
I om the mother of two young girls, WIG<br />
younger onc Is wllh me. Thc oldcsl-born<br />
whcn I wns hlnglcwna surrcndcrcd<br />
lw~dcr coercion nnd duress) lor ndopllon.<br />
1 nm grieved by the conlmveny ovcr who<br />
Isn "renl"pnrcnl. thc scmmtlcsqunbbles<br />
ovcr whclhcr "nnturnl." "blolcglcnl." or<br />
some evcn mom nculrnl term lpcrhnps<br />
"mcchonlcal?") Is the proper dcslgnnllon<br />
for lhor who concclvcd an adopled child.<br />
Evcn mnrc dlslurblng Is lhc ldcn lhnl n<br />
chlld's lovc Is o llmllcd qunnllly, n sourcc<br />
of blllcr rivnlry bclwcen those who gnvc<br />
hlm 111s llfc, nnd those who gave hlm his<br />
homc. I hope nll parcnls, nnturnl nnd<br />
ndoptlvc, who hold lhis narrow vlcw will<br />
lhlnk nboul whnl 1.hnvc to soy.<br />
I nm n "rcnl" molhcr lo my dnughlcr.<br />
nnd h6r blrlh lolhcr Lr n "real" .fnlhcr,<br />
kcnwc her gcnctlc mnkcup. her body md<br />
blood, come from us, and morc lmprlnnlly<br />
bccnusc I lovc never ccnscd lo<br />
remcmlrr, lo suflcr, lo cry, lo grieve nnd<br />
cnrc. Evcn lhougl~ we nrcnol lo~clhcr nnd<br />
do nol shlrc her dnlly llfc. cvcn If 1 ncver<br />
scc her fncc ngnln, shc is truly ours by my<br />
lhoughls 01 hcr, by forcc of my love.<br />
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trlnnglc. Thc ndoplce 1s In n Ilnlqec psi.<br />
lion, In lhnl ll~c loving nld of nll four of hls<br />
"rcnl" pnrcnls is needed lo cnnblc him lo<br />
llnd 111s .own mls nnd wlqjis. Tl~ls Is no1<br />
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cnsy lor nny of UF: IL Is difllcull tor the<br />
ndopllvc pnrcnls lo nckrrowlcclgc llrnl thus<br />
dld nol concclvc nnd bcnr the child lhcy<br />
Iovc, nnd lhnl his cll~nlc nnd blologlcnl<br />
MIS lie clsccvbcre, nnd It Is cqunlly<br />
dlfficull for ihc blrll~ pnrcnls lo ncccpl lhc<br />
lnct thnt cvcn If fbcy nrc rcunltcd wllh<br />
Ihclr gmw chlld, tl~cy will ncver bc rrlorc<br />
lhnn his good fricnds. The words "motbcr<br />
nnd fnU~cr" will nlwnys evoke mcmorlcs<br />
of lhosc whn rnlscd him. Howcvcr hnrd ll<br />
is, wc mu31 nll nld the sc.!rchlnl: ndoplcc;<br />
musl give our cl~lld wlngs.<br />
1 hop ndopllvc pnrcnls will nnrwcr<br />
lhclr children's qucsllo s md cncourngc<br />
md nld Ibclr scorch for lhclr "other"<br />
mols. Plcnsc scc lhls scnrch ns n basic<br />
need lor blologlcnl ldenllly-roots, Afi<br />
exlcnsion 01 lore nnd forglvcncss: no! ns<br />
nn ncl of dlsloynlly or rcpudlntlon of your<br />
mrcnlliwd. Rcmcmbcr-your child's<br />
cmollonnl rools nlwnys ulll be wllh you if<br />
you hnvc rnlscd hlm In nn nl~nosphcrc 01<br />
i ~ lah<br />
d lo\%?. .<br />
'Thcrc Is solnrlhlng concrclc you cnn do<br />
now-If you arc on ndoplivc parcnl, contncl<br />
thc ngcncy lhnl plnccd your chlld nnd<br />
rmuekl comoiclc. uodnlcd mcdlcal nnd<br />
soc'lnl dnin oh your ci~lld's background. If<br />
you nrc n birth pnrenl, mnlncl lhe ngcncy<br />
nnd offcr t11Is lnfonnnllor~. Scvcrnl<br />
prcnfs, lricl~~dlng myscll, nrc doing lhls<br />
. nnd wc wlll nld and ndvlsc nnyonc who<br />
wnnlslo Join us in this hard nnd lmprlnnl<br />
llrsl slep. Conlncl Orphnn Voyngc, Cc.<br />
dqrcdgc. Colo. 81413, or me.<br />
Linda Slllplcy<br />
no111e 2<br />
llonnl wcnc. lhnn cvcr bclorc In the<br />
nntlon's hislory. And we know quite wcll<br />
whlch pollllcnl pnrly undcrwrilfs mmt<br />
-Tho Columbla~ally Trlbune, Columbia, Mo.. Saturday Mornlng, May 22, 1976<br />
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