Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

difforont docisions, or porliops boon happior
wltli tho docisions I did riioko. I1 durlng
ono of tlio onrly liilcrviows I lind boon prosontod
with somotliiiig in writiti~j wlilcii
would ltnve givon rno n clonror undorstnnd-
I110 of wlicit o~lopllon oritnilod orid whot
sorvlcos might bo nvoiloblo to mu if I woro
to docido to koop my bnby.
Nowndnys, somo pooplo soon1 to lliink that
hirtiirnotliors should fool guilty for tiavirig
givon up tliolr childron for odoption. Yot, at
tho tlme, I was mod0 to fool guilty for wonting
to koop my boblos. If tlroro Is ony guilt in
odoption, it should bo shorod by tlioso who
forcod our backs to tho woll. Porhaps tho
sociol workers thougtit that tlioy woro helping
unmorriod mothors by oncouroging
thorn to keop their illogltimoto prognenclos
socrot, but it could bo orguod that, In doing
so, tlioy wero cntorlng to tho projudicos of
o potrlnrchnl socloty wlilcli, trodilionnlly,
110s loorod tlio soxunllty 01 wonicti. It
sooins to mo tho1 blrtlirnolhors oro cxpoctod
to bo tlio scopogonts for tlio scxual guilt
of socinty nnd I. for oiio, nin gortiiig tircrl of
boliig o scnpogoot.
Editor's rtote: We tvoold wclcorne corttnrerits
frorti oin renders on rile points nincte
irr tho nbovo nrticle. Tlie nutlror liol~es tlint
everitcmlly sho rriny be oblo to obtairi iriforrnntion
on tho two birtlisoos slic gave rrp
for nrlopliori. Tlrc first wns bout on April 2 1,
1959, tlre secorrd on October 4, 1961.
Ariy person wislrirrg to corrmct lrer niny do
so core of Forriilv Irrvolvonierrt Journnl. 4
2 8 FAMILY INVOLVEMENT